REAL LOVE

Hi Guys,

If you have used and tried the suggestions in this blog but still things are not working out as you wanted or hoped; then please keep reading.  

What is happening is that even if you are using the suggestions and tips, there may still be a KEY factor that has not been implemented in your life yet. And this KEY FACTOR MUST be a part of your life in order for you to truly show real love.  If you do not have this KEY FACTOR you are trying to show love in your own way which is (conditional love). 

Conditional  aka Selfish Love comes with a lot of baggage,  ultimatums,  selfishness, criticizes,  tit for tat conditions, stipulations, alerts and warnings, consequences, action watching,  hurt feelings, and fakeness. 

So when you love this way the reaction that you are looking for you will not get.  You are going to get the type of reaction that comes with what you planted.  The Bible says in Galatians 6:7 Be not deceived; God is not mocked for whatsoever a man sowes that shall he also reap. (In other words what you do to others, God is going to allow that to happen to you.  Your actions are your seeds that you plant; the harvest that comes from what you plant is strictly for you to enjoy alone whether it is good or bad).

Luke 16:15- He (Jesus) said to them “you are the ones who justify yourselves in the eyes of men, but God knows your hearts.  What is highly valued among men is detestable in God sights.

Guys it’s time to plant better actions, and the ONLY way you can do this is if you have the Love of God in you. With God’s love in you, you will no longer have conditional love- that love will turn to unconditional love, and that love will not look for anything in return, will not hold a grudge, will not get hurt,   will not be selfish, will not attach ultimatums, will not have stipulations, will not be fake…this love will just show love because you are loving not from your heart but with the heart of Christ.  

But the only way you can have God’s love in you to show and express to the one you love is that you MUST accept him as your Lord and Savior. Then your life will change, and the way you love will change too.

It states in the Bible Romans 10:9 That if you shall confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus (confess that Jesus is the Lord of Glory, and the Savior of men, and that He died on the cross that we might be saved) and shall believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead (pertains to the Bodily Resurrection of Christ, as is obvious), you will be saved (it is that simple!).

Once this is done, the Holy Spirit which will then dwell in you will teach you how to love with the love of Christ!  And you will begin loving the way God wants you to love; which will turn your relationship around for the better.

1 Corinthians 13: 4-8

Love suffers long (is patient), and is kind, Love envies not, Love vaunts not itself (is never a braggart) , is not puffed up (is not prideful), does not behave itself unseemly (is forgetful of self and thoughtful of others), seeks not her own way (is unselfish) , is not easily provoked, (is not embittered by abuse, insults, or injury)  thinks no evil, (take account of no evil) rejoices not in iniquity, (never gossips about the misdeeds of others) but rejoices in the Truth (proclaims that which the Word of God identifies as Truth).  Love Bears all things (never complains), believes all things, (takes the kindest views of all men)   hopes all things, (keeps believing for the best) endures all things (puts up with everything). Love never fails…

Tips for this week to obtain Real Love

  1. Ask Jesus to come into your Heart and be you Lord and Savior (get into a church teaching God’s Word to help you grow in the Lord)
  2. Start implementing 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 in your life
  3. No matter what you see BELIEVE GOD’s Word (we walk by faith not by sight) – Hebrews 11:1 Now faith is the substance of things hoped for the evidence of things not seen.

 

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Just Because You Are Home Does Not Mean You Are There

Hi Guys,

Have you ever told your (wife) that you would stay home and spend the day with her but instead of actually doing things with her you are into doing your own thing?  She of course is upset, mouth poked out and looking at you with anger.  Of course you don’t think anything about it because you are at home with her and thinks she should be grateful for that.

Fellas,  just being there is not spending time with your love one; just because your body is physically at home does not mean your heart is there. You see when your heart is there you will want to do things and spend time with your heart a.k.a the one you love.

Below are some tips and/or ideas that will make her know that you really wanted to spend time with her.

1. Cook dinner together

2. Play Board Games together

3. Take a romantic drive together

I  hope this helps and have a Happy Valentine’s Day.

Saying I’m Sorry Does Not Make You Weak; Just In Love

Hi Guys,

Say you and your (wife, fiancée, or girlfriend) is having a discussion, but she does not agree with your viewpoint regarding the matter.   The discussion gets out of hand, turns into a disagreement and then an argument.  You begin to say things that are hurtful to her; you don’t hold back because what you are saying you believe is true.  After the argument you can feel the tension between the two of you, and even though you know you hurt her feelings you refuse to apologize.

Guys, when you are in a relationship you are not always going to agree on everything; but just because you both don’t agree with one another it does not mean the love should stop flowing.   And when you have hurt the one you love; saying I’m sorry should be automatic.  Guys, saying “I’m Sorry” does not make you weak; saying I’m sorry just mean you really love her.  When the one you love hurt; you should hurt, and you should not be able to rest until things are back right with your relationship.  Saying I’m sorry shows that you really love your (wife, fiancée, or girlfriend), and that you are willing to swallow your pride to heal her heart from the pain that you caused her.

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Tip of the week- Say I’m Sorry

Below are a few examples of what might be a reason to say” I’m sorry”.

  1. During an argument you said something that you knew would hurt her feelings.
  2. You lied to her
  3. You broke a promise

Bring The Romantic Guy Inside of You Back

Hi Guys,

Do you remember when you were dating you use to hold your (wife, fiancée, or girlfriend’s) hand as you walked around the mall or down the street?  Do you remember how you use to open her car door when you picked her up for your date?   What about how you use to cuddle on the couch while watching a movie, or the long hug and kiss good night you could not wait to give her when you brought her back home from your date.   But now that you have gotten married or have been with each other for a while the romantic things you use to do are just a far away memory.

Guys, just because you have married the one you love, or because you have been together for a while does not mean that the romantic things should stop.  The same things you did to get her; is going to be the same things you will need to continue doing to keep the love alive and going strong in your relationship.

Bring back that romantic guy you use to be and win your (wife’s, fiancée’s or girlfriend’s) heart all over again.

Valentine’s Day is soon approaching.  Don’t get the same old thing you get every year.  Be creative and give her something special from your heart.  Visit Shop.mendingheartsco.com and get something that she will cherish forever.

Tip of the week: Romance Her Again.

Below are some things you can do to bring the romantic side of you back.

1. When driving somewhere together- make sure you open and close her car door for her.

2. After coming home from your errands, before going into the house stop at the front door and give her a romantic kiss.

3.  Gently grab her hand and hold hands while walking in public.

4. For additional romantic things to do— look inside your heart and remember the things you use to do that she loved so much.

This is such a true statement…Without Him there would be no us!

Draw Closer To Him

“He is before all things, and in him all things hold together.”  Colossians 1:17

What hope springs forth from that verse!

No matter what we are facing, in relationships or as a nation, if we are in Jesus, He will hold us together!

Let’s break that down a bit.  Maybe you have a very heated argument with a friend.  You both claim Christ as your Savior, yet neither wants to reach out to the other.  Is pride holding you back?  Is hurt, which springs from anger, harbored in your heart?

“He is before all things and in Him all things hold together.”

Both people need to sit down, separately, alone with God, and focus exclusively on Him.  Each needs to spend time is His word, the Bible, to learn or to remind himself of God’s expectations.

“Love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your mind and all…

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Does She Know?

Hi Guys,

Ok, say you and the one you love are chilling doing nothing but relaxing for the day.  You are on the couch watching TV and a commercial comes on with one of your favorite actresses.  Before you know it you burst out “Man she looks good”!  Then you feel the eyes of your (wife, fiancée, or girlfriend) starring at you in discussed.  Your reaction quickly is to defend yourself saying “What”!

Ok, I know you may be thinking to yourself what did you do or say that was so wrong?   Well let me explain to you what is going on in her mind.  She is the woman you say you love, she is the woman you see every day, she is the woman that does for you, she is the woman that be with you through the good and the bad, she is the woman that stands by your side; yet you NEVER open up and tell her how beautiful she looks to you, or how sexy she is.  However, you have no problem in telling her how pretty or sexy other women are.  Guys, you have to know what to say and when to say it.  If you are NOT going to tell the one you love how beautiful or sexy she is …by all means DO NOT tell her how beautiful and sexy someone else is even if she is an actress on TV.

And PLEASE know that this is not about jealousy; when she gets dressed, when she does her hair, even to the perfume that she wears it’s not to attract attention from men, it’s to keep the attention of one man; the man she loves.  But then when all that she does goes unnoticed it hurts and she will begin to build up walls to protect her heart.  Guys, it’s time to tear down the walls.

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Tip of the week:

Tell Her She is Beautiful, and when you tell her say it with love.  Don’t make it sound fake, robotic, or rehearsed.  Let it come from the heart… something as simple as the below examples/scenario.

1. EX:  Say your (wife, fiancée, or girlfriend) is sitting on the couch reading a book, you come in the room and begin to stare at her, she begins to feel uneasy because you never looked at her like that before and sarcastically says “What”?   Then you say in a soft loving tone/voice “I just can’t get over how  beautiful you are ”  then walk over to her, give her a soft kiss and go back to doing whatever you were doing.

2. If she has on a cute or sexy outfit that you like the way she looks in it let her know.  Try saying something like “Hey baby, you look good in that outfit…you wear it well”!

Does She Know?

Hi Guys,

Ok, say you and the one you love are chilling doing nothing but relaxing for the day.  You are on the couch watching TV a commercial comes on with one of your favorite actress.  Before you know it you burst out “Man she looks good”!  Then you feel the eyes of your (wife! fiancée, or girlfriend) starring at you in discussed.  Your reaction quickly is to defend yourself and say “What”!  Ok, I know you may be thinking to yourself what did you do or say that was so wrong?

Well let me explain to you what is going on in her mind.  She is the woman you say you love, she is the woman you see every day, she is the woman that does for you, she is the woman that be with you through the good and the bad, she is the woman that stands by your side; yet you NEVER open up and tell her how beautiful she looks to you, or how sexy she is.  But you have no problem in telling her how pretty or sexy other women are.  Men, you have to know what to say and when to it.  If you are NOT going to tell the one you love how beautiful or sexy she is …by all means DO NOT tell her how beautiful or sexy someone else is (not even if she’s an actress).

And PLEASE know that it has nothing to do with jealousy, your (wife, fiancée, or girlfriend) wants to know that she is still beautiful and sexy in your eyes.  How she dresses, how she does her hair, to the perfume she wears it’s not to attract the attention of other men.  It’s to keep the attention of one man; the man she loves, and when it goes unnoticed …it hurt’s and walls build up. Guys, it’s time to start tearing down the walls.

For assistance visit MENDING HEARTS CO. at shop.mendingheartsco.com.  And find the perfect gift to let her (wife, fiancée, or girlfriend) know how beautiful or sexy she really is to you.

Tip of the week:

Tell Her She is Beautiful, and when you tell her say it with love.  Don’t make it sound fake, robotic, or rehearsed.  Let it come from the heart… something as simple as the below examples/scenario.

1. EX:  Say your (wife, fiancée, or girlfriend) is sitting on the couch reading a book, you come in the room and begin to stare at her, she begins to feel uneasy because you never look at her intensely before and says “What”?  sarcastically …then you say in a soft loving tone/voice ” I just can’t get over how  beautiful you look ”  then walk over to her, give her a soft kiss and go back to doing whatever you were doing.

2. If she have on a cute or sexy outfit that you like the way she looks in it, let her know.  In your Sexy voice try saying something like “Hey baby, you look good in that outfit…you wear it well”!