If you have used and tried the suggestions in this blog but still things are not working out as you wanted or hoped; then please keep reading.
What is happening is that even if you are using the suggestions and tips, there may still be a KEY factor that has not been implemented in your life yet. And this KEY FACTOR MUST be a part of your life in order for you to truly show real love. If you do not have this KEY FACTOR you are trying to show love in your own way which is (conditional love).
Conditional aka Selfish Love comes with a lot of baggage, ultimatums, selfishness, criticizes, tit for tat conditions, stipulations, alerts and warnings, consequences, action watching, hurt feelings, and fakeness.
So when you love this way the reaction that you are looking for you will not get. You are going to get the type of reaction that comes with what you planted. The Bible says in Galatians 6:7 Be not deceived; God is not mocked for whatsoever a man sowes that shall he also reap. (In other words what you do to others, God is going to allow that to happen to you. Your actions are your seeds that you plant; the harvest that comes from what you plant is strictly for you to enjoy alone whether it is good or bad).
Luke 16:15- He (Jesus) said to them “you are the ones who justify yourselves in the eyes of men, but God knows your hearts. What is highly valued among men is detestable in God sights.
Guys it’s time to plant better actions, and the ONLY way you can do this is if you have the Love of God in you. With God’s love in you, you will no longer have conditional love- that love will turn to unconditional love, and that love will not look for anything in return, will not hold a grudge, will not get hurt, will not be selfish, will not attach ultimatums, will not have stipulations, will not be fake…this love will just show love because you are loving not from your heart but with the heart of Christ.
But the only way you can have God’s love in you to show and express to the one you love is that you MUST accept him as your Lord and Savior. Then your life will change, and the way you love will change too.
It states in the Bible Romans 10:9 That if you shall confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus (confess that Jesus is the Lord of Glory, and the Savior of men, and that He died on the cross that we might be saved) and shall believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead (pertains to the Bodily Resurrection of Christ, as is obvious), you will be saved (it is that simple!).
Once this is done, the Holy Spirit which will then dwell in you will teach you how to love with the love of Christ! And you will begin loving the way God wants you to love; which will turn your relationship around for the better.
1 Corinthians 13: 4-8
Love suffers long (is patient), and is kind, Love envies not, Love vaunts not itself (is never a braggart) , is not puffed up (is not prideful), does not behave itself unseemly (is forgetful of self and thoughtful of others), seeks not her own way (is unselfish) , is not easily provoked, (is not embittered by abuse, insults, or injury) thinks no evil, (take account of no evil) rejoices not in iniquity, (never gossips about the misdeeds of others) but rejoices in the Truth (proclaims that which the Word of God identifies as Truth). Love Bears all things (never complains), believes all things, (takes the kindest views of all men) hopes all things, (keeps believing for the best) endures all things (puts up with everything). Love never fails…
Tips for this week to obtain Real Love
- Ask Jesus to come into your Heart and be you Lord and Savior (get into a church teaching God’s Word to help you grow in the Lord)
- Start implementing 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 in your life
- No matter what you see BELIEVE GOD’s Word (we walk by faith not by sight) – Hebrews 11:1 Now faith is the substance of things hoped for the evidence of things not seen.